What is Small Talk and how good are you at it?

      

• It’s what persons say to each other to be polite.
• Breaks the ice and puts others at ease.
• Establishes a connection or defines a common denominator between two persons.
• Doesn’t require original or profound conversation.

There is nothing small about small talk. Small talk could even be considered a form art in some cases. Some people are really good not only at talking, but even at managing to keep their interlocutor interested when the subject of conversation itself is not relevant at all. However, small talk is not just about talking. It’s mostly about listening!

Being good at maintaining improvised conversations about random can be of vital importance in some positions but it can also be a social life booster. 

The following ten tips will help you master the art of small talk:

1.        Have approachable body language: open stance, eye contact, and smile. Casual eye contact and a warm friendly smile demonstrate your interest and desire to communicate.

2.        Take the initiative and be the first to say hello. Be the first to introduce yourself and ask an open-ended question. This not only demonstrates confidence and shows interest in the other person, but it gives you an opportunity to guide the conversation.

3.        Begin with statements or questions about the immediate environment, situation, weather, how the person arrived at your location, et cetera. A compliment is also a great way to start a conversation.

4.        Be well-informed and prepared.  Read newspapers and news magazines to be knowledgeable about what is going on in the world. Go prepared with topics or experiences to discuss that you think will be of interest to the persons you will be meeting.

5.        Focus on the other person and less on yourself. This will help you feel less self-conscious, and make the other person feel important.

6.        Do listen. Control internal and external distractions. Be present; watch the tendency to daydream. Truly listening to another person is the highest compliment you can pay them.

7.        Keep the tone light and positive until you find a topic in which you are both interested.

8.        Discuss general-interest subjects such as movies, theater, sports, books, movies, food, travel and hobbies. It demonstrates to others that you are approachable and friendly.

9.        Think before you speak. It makes you appear thoughtful; and it may help you avoid a faux pas, or saying something that is better left unsaid.

10.      Always close a conversation before walking away from the other person by using a graceful exit line; don’t simply melt from conversations. “It’s been great talking with you. I really enjoyed hearing about…”

Avoid these subjects with others you don’t know very well:

• Your health or diet habits.
• The cost of things.
• Personal questions.
• Mean gossip.
• Off-color jokes.
• Controversial issues, such as politics or religion, when you don’t know the others in the group.

Source: The Etiquette School of New York